So, this is our Anniversary month.... and sweet friends.... I don't know how I feel...is that fair? There's just been so much hard this past year, currently, and good...there's been good too, which magnifies the confusion and the hard decision making in our relationship. I had a moment of clarity a few days ago, you know when your head is grappling with a concept and you are trying to learn it, it's right there, it starts to make sense but there's a disconnect somewhere in the mix. Your heart is struggling to catch up to your head and it causes confusion on what exactly the right thing is supposed to look like. That's where I've been for several months, and then the other day, during a moment with my husband, everything clicked together and I got it. Sweet friends, clarity is always good...but sometimes it is also painful. And this moment of clarity, was painful.
Painful because now I'm forced with moving forward in what I can clearly see is right. These actions moving forward...will absolutely force some kind of change, and I really have no idea what that is going to look like. I've been saying that for a long time now, but this time things feel different...I think because my head isn't as foggy as it was this whole past year. Does that make sense?
Oh I don't know sweet friends.... Every day I get up and just push so hard, with everything in my life. I'm in constant push mode and I really just want to relax, physically, mentally, emotionally...spiritually. I'm so tired but I'm in a tough season and I know that if I stop, if I slow down, I just might crumble under the weight of everything. I don't think I'm right here either.
"My yoke is easy, My burden is light"
I'm missing something sweet friends, I'm missing something really crucial and I don't know where to find it. No, that's not true.... it's at the feet of Jesus. I know this. Why can't I get to His feet in this? That's what I don't know, that's what I have to figure out. I run to Jesus all the time, it's my favorite place to be honestly. And I'm kind of baffled at myself that I am having such a hard time with this. What is holding me back from the place I know I need and want to be? And yet, I think my fear of walking in disobedience once I know the truth is what's holding me back. What if the answer to my question of how do I step into God's yoke, strips me of everything I'm working so hard to fix?
His ways are better than my ways....
Man, why do we struggle so much with what we know is right sweet friends? We are a sinful and selfish people aren't we? We struggle with God over our selfishness all the time don't we? We know our ways aren't better....and yet we death grip them. Why?
I'm mad at myself right now, even writing this because I'm seeing my strongholds right now. I'm seeing the fear that has creeped in and captured me in this. It's not okay. I am not okay. I have to stop fighting God in this because I cannot fix my life, He has to do that. I'm so mad at my husband for refusing to surrender to God but look at me.... in this moment, I'm doing the same thing. My heart might be in a different place, but I'm clearly in a tug of war with God. I can't get to His feet if I'm too busy pulling against Him in this.
I have to let go. I hate that this has been a common theme this entire past year...let go. I didn't realize how much I was holding onto. God has revealed so many dark and hidden places inside of me already. Not wicked places, just really broken places. And it's been a hard process where every broken piece, has been examined and shown to me. God is healing me...He is. And that's why I KNOW that I can trust Him right now, I know I can. I still don't know why it's so hard to give this to Him. Pray for me sweet friends, my flesh needs to die in this and fear needs to flee. I want to be made whole. I want to have peace and be able to relax inside. I want to be inside God's will for my life. I do. I guess now that I'm seeing this internal struggle a little more clearly today, that's what I need to work on this week, among other things.
I signed up for a women's retreat this weekend. Can I tell you a truth... I don't really want to go. Honestly, it's on my Anniversary and a couple weeks ago when I signed up, I saw it as a way out. I feel bad saying that for several reasons really. I feel like a bad wife. I absolutely know that I'm running away. Normally something like this, I would be rallying women to go with me because that's who I am. But not this time, I have a couple friends that are going to this and I'm sure I'll recognize more once I'm there, I do know a lot of people so I'm guessing I'll know people. But... for the most part, I'm just going by myself. And I know how terrible and cold this sounds, but deep down I'm just kind of hoping to blend in with the crowd and go unnoticed... lol I know, that's terrible. And honestly, I'm not a novice here, I'm sure that won't happen... because that's not how God works sweet friends. And I think that scares me a little too. I've been vulnerable here, I've been vulnerable with a few people in my life right now... but I'm afraid sweet friends.... I'm on the verge of tears now....I don't want to fall apart there, because it's not gonna be just strangers, it's going to be people I know.
I also believe that even though my intention was to run away for the weekend, I know God too well. I'm not in charge here, and though God and I walk closely together every day, He will have my full attention all weekend. He won't waste it. I'm not afraid of God, I don't know what I'm so afraid of, but it's there. I think my biggest struggle this weekend is going to be in fighting myself, ya know....to just let go. We'll see what happens. I know this hasn't been a real encouraging post sweet friends, but it is what it is today. Appreciate your prayers. I'm praying for you in whatever you are facing, and holding onto, that you too can get to His feet and let it go.
love ya -d